“You’ll never please everyone. So who are you really choosing to be?”

After living away from my home country for more than 10 years, I still struggle to answer one simple question: who am I?

It’s not that I lack a label. I call myself an ‘international professional’ – a term that sounds respectable enough. ‘International’ suggests movement across borders. ‘Professional’ implies accumulated knowledge and expertise. But this convenient shorthand still falls short of capturing who I really am.

As a career coach working with international professionals, I see this struggle everywhere. In networking events. In job interviews. In LinkedIn profiles that somehow all sound the same. We’ve learned to package ourselves neatly into expected categories – the ambitious expat, the global nomad, the third culture kid. But these labels often feel hollow because they don’t capture our actual experiences or what truly drives us.

The truth is, being able to articulate who you are matters. Potential employers want to understand your story. Collaborators need to know what you bring beyond credentials. Your professional network connects with you because of shared values and experiences, not just shared industries.

Yet so often, we default to stereotypes or generic descriptions that don’t distinguish us from anyone else.

The Challenge of Self-Definition

So how do you break free from generic labels and articulate who you really are?

I’ve considered the usual options, and none quite work.

Why Common Labels Don’t Fit

Citizen of the world? Too easy, too cheap, and hollow in every practical sense. You are really only a citizen of one country, maybe two if that’s allowed. Citizenship carries the heavy responsibility of representation, belonging, and defending the country’s honour. How can I possibly do that for the world when it is hard enough to do it justice for my own country?

Personal demographics? I could list my age, gender, ethnicity, and my multiple roles as mother, wife, worker and community volunteer. But I don’t feel like exposing my personal life to a wide faceless readership. There’s little chance of meaningful dialogue in the internet sphere of partial fleeting attention.

Professional credentials? I could dig deep into what I do and the value I bring. After all, isn’t that what we do on LinkedIn? We position ourselves as an authority on X, with sure-fire strategies for Y, and crystal ball gazing into the future of Z. But I hear the dissenting voice: oh no, not another cringy self-promotional humble brag!

Confessional authenticity? Maybe I ditch being professional and go confessional. I could reveal my deepest fears, my latest desires, my 2025 bucket list. Would this be the authentic voice that people want to hear? Or just a higher level of cringe for the naysayers?

AI-generated image of an elderly father and young son riding a donkey.

The Father, Son, and Donkey Parable

I’m reminded of the story of the father, his son, and a donkey. They tried every way to travel well, but couldn’t win.

At first, the father rode while the son walked. Bystanders chided the father for letting his young son walk. Then the son rode while the father walked. Now the criticism targeted the son for letting his elderly father walk. Then both rode the donkey together. But the outcry was about cruelty – how could they make the donkey bear the weight of two people? Finally, father and son carried the donkey on their backs. All they heard was laughter and derision.

The moral? You will never please all audiences. So do what you believe is sensible and within your own moral conscience, instead of responding to every possible criticism.

My Story: A Different Kind of International

Applying this moral, who am I beyond the label of ‘international professional’?

I’ll answer with a story.

Growing Up in Singapore

I am from Singapore. I grew up in systems based on meritocracy and competition, shaped by cultural notions of generational respect and family pride.

My peers and I were always trying to go ‘international’ – for culture, education, and lifestyle. But it was a ‘western’ kind of international, with specific countries in mind, ranked in order of preference. This particular form of being international was prestigious, desirable, and an investment for future advancement.

As the internet opened up the world in new ways – connecting us to information, opportunities, and people beyond our borders – going international shifted from dream to possibility. We could see what was out there. We could imagine ourselves in those places. The world felt within reach in a way it hadn’t for previous generations.

But while international-oriented people zigged, I zagged. I wasn’t craving a specific kind of international label or a fast-tracked pathway to success. I wanted to explore ideas that mattered to me and find my own kind of international.

My First International Experience: Canada

My first experience of being international was as an exchange student at Simon Fraser University in Burnaby, just outside Vancouver.

It was also my first experience of snow. It was supposed to be magical. It turned out to be a slushy, sneaker-soaked disappointment I will never forget.

But thank goodness that experience didn’t define my international journey. My dormitory was truly international – local Canadians, international and exchange students from various Asian and European countries. I had eye-opening interactions for my 21-year-old self who had lived a fairly sheltered life in conservative Singapore.

The moments I remembered: Being told off by my Swiss dorm mate for having the radio on too loud at 7 am. (I was playing classical music at what I thought was a reasonable low volume.) Being clueless about putting a paper plate in the oven and nearly burning down the kitchen. Observing a standoff between my Chinese dorm mate cleaning a fish in the shared kitchen sink and the Swiss making remarks in accented English which my Chinese friend either didn’t catch or couldn’t care less about.

I remember squeezing into a car driven by Chinese Jeff who had a broken side window taped up with cardboard. Canadian Bob wasn’t wearing a seatbelt. I kept asking annoying questions: Is this okay? Is it legal? Am I allowed to sit in the middle? All the way to the cinema to watch Good Will Hunting.

I really lapped up the ‘go for it’ attitude of the Canada I experienced then. It was liberating to just try things out and not worry about what others would think. Being international felt like I could be free to explore who I wanted to be!

The Mountain Climb That Changed Everything

The deepest memory I have was going on a mountain climb at the start of Spring.

Weather was great, they said. Won’t you come along? Winter and slushy snow were things of the past. I was no fitness buff but had gotten used to walking around the nearby hills. So I thought, sure, what’s not to like about a mountain climb with friends?

On the day of the hike, I came prepared in my own way. Jeans and track shoes. Umbrella, water bottle, beanie and gloves in backpack.

Of course, everyone else wore appropriate hiking gear. I was the only one in jeans. What did I know about proper hiking clothes? Not much really.

My ignorance became my downfall just a couple of hours in. It was getting difficult to move in jeans. Then it started to rain. Out came my umbrella, which became more burden than help when navigating rocky terrain. I was slowing down as others leaped ahead. Then it started to snow. I could barely make out where the rest of the group was.

My beanie and gloves came in handy at least. But my track shoes were thoroughly soaked and my feet were icy cold. Two guys stayed with me to make sure I kept moving – one behind me, one ahead. The snow was getting heavier. There was no way but up.

I felt like a total fool for thinking the Canadian gung-ho spirit was all I needed for a mountain hike. I felt I was going to die. I was tired, unfit, and miserable about the weather, my incompetence, and totally overwhelmed by the challenge.

But I had two cheerleaders, one from behind and one in front. I somehow managed to inch my way up to the top.

The rest of the group was there, waiting for me. We even took a photo of our victory pose.

Author’s photo: Grouse Mountain, Vancouver (date withheld)

What Being International Really Means

That was the defining experience for me about being international. Exploring a new country and culture. Being unprepared but doing it anyway. Having cross-cultural friendships through shared and meaningful experiences.

It was a brief four months. Over time I’ve lost touch with all these wonderful friends. But those experiences sealed in me this desire to be international and the very real notion that what doesn’t kill you will only make you stronger.

This wasn’t just a memorable trip. It was my inciting incident – the moment that shaped my values, my approach to challenges, and what I look for in my professional life. It taught me that being international isn’t about prestige or following a prescribed path. It’s about the willingness to be uncomfortable, to rely on others, and to push through when you feel unprepared.

My Answer: Identity Through Story

So who am I?

An international professional who is motivated by the ability to explore freely and be part of a multi-cultural environment of shared and meaningful experiences.

I had to say that through a story. A sentence or two would just be a string of context-less words.

When people ask me now – in interviews, at conferences, in coaching conversations – I don’t just list my credentials. I tell them about standing in the snow on that mountain, feeling utterly out of my depth, and making it to the top anyway. That story tells them more about who I am and how I work than any resume bullet point ever could.

Your Turn: What’s Your Defining Moment?

As international professionals, we all have these moments. The experiences that shape who we are and why we do what we do. But many of us have never taken the time to identify them or articulate why they matter.

So here’s my challenge to you:

Think back to your own inciting incident. What was the defining moment or experience that shaped who you are as an international professional? Not the expected milestones – your first degree, your first job, your first promotion. But the moment that revealed something fundamental about your values, your resilience, or what truly motivates you.

Maybe it was a moment of cultural misunderstanding that taught you empathy. A professional setback that redirected your path. A conversation that changed how you saw yourself. An unexpected friendship that expanded your worldview.

Take time to reflect on it. What made it significant? What did you learn about yourself? How does it connect to who you are today and what you’re trying to build in your career?

Then practice articulating it. Not as a rehearsed elevator pitch, but as a genuine story that helps others understand what drives you. This is how you move beyond generic labels and stereotypes. This is how you show people who you really are.

Because here’s what I’ve learned through years of coaching international professionals: The ones who can articulate their story with clarity and authenticity are the ones who build meaningful careers and connections. They’re the ones who find opportunities that truly fit them, rather than just chasing what looks prestigious.

But now that you know my backstory, I can leave you with just a few more words:

Carpe diem. Seize the day. Make your lives extraordinary. Be your own kind of international.

Dr Sherrie Lee is a Certified Career Services Provider™ and career coach specialising in cross-cultural career transitions. With a PhD in Education focusing on cultural networking practices and over 10 years of facilitation, training and coaching experience, she helps international professionals build authentic networks and thrive in new work cultures. Learn more about Dr Sherrie Lee and book a free no-obligation 20-min call to find out how career coaching can help you.

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Lost in Translation? How to Network Across Cultures Without Losing Yourself

2 September 202512 September 2025adminLeave a comment

A migrant professional’s honest guide to building authentic connections that actually work

“Hi, I have a PhD in Education, what do you do?”

I still cringe remembering that introduction. There I was, all fired up and ready to make an impression at a professional networking event in New Zealand, and I managed to sound both arrogant and awkward in one breath. The polite smile on the other person’s face said it all.

If you’ve ever stood at a networking event clutching your drink for dear life, watching others exchanging enthused nods and laughter while you wonder who you’re supposed to become to fit in here, you’re not alone. The truth is, networking as an international professional isn’t just about overcoming the usual social anxieties—it’s about navigating an entirely new cultural code while trying to stay true to who you are.

The Networking Translation Trap: When Good Advice Goes Wrong

We’ve all heard it: “It’s not what you know but who you know.” For migrant professionals, this advice often comes with a bewildering follow-up: “Just start networking!” But networking how? With whom? And should you really be sliding into CEOs’ LinkedIn DMs with AI-generated messages saying you’re “open to work”?

While networking online seems easy enough and convenient, it is the in-person networking in real life that helps to build relationships and trust. Just like ‘easy apply’ on LinkedIn is usually too good to be true, so is the notion that one can get jobs simply through LinkedIn connections and smooth messages.

I’ve been there—both as the overeager newcomer firing off connection requests and as the wallflower studying my food with laser focus, especially when I was the only person of colour in the room. I’ve caught myself freezing when asked to ‘work the room,’ and I’ve observed fellow international professionals do the same—our usual confidence evaporating in a sea of unfamiliar social cues.

The problem isn’t that we don’t understand networking’s importance. The problem is that most networking advice assumes we all speak the same cultural language.

The Observation Phase: My Accidental Discovery

After enough awkward introductions (including my PhD disaster), I accidentally stumbled onto something that changed everything. Instead of trying to network at every event, I started treating some gatherings as pure observation missions.

I’d go with a friend, position myself strategically near conversations, and simply watch. How did people approach each other? What topics seemed to energise discussions? When did conversations naturally transition from small talk to professional topics? How long did people spend with each person before moving on? (Finally, putting my ethnographic skills from my PhD research to practical use!)

What I discovered was fascinating: successful networking looked completely different than I’d imagined. It wasn’t about being the most charismatic person in the room or having the perfect elevator pitch. It was about understanding the unspoken rhythm of professional social interaction in this particular cultural context—and more importantly, learning to move within that rhythm while staying true to yourself.

It all started to make sense when I realised that networking in this new cultural context wasn’t about having the perfect introduction—it was about mastering the art of thoughtful presence. I learned that you could stand at the periphery of a conversation, show genuine interest through your body language and attentive gaze, and often someone would naturally gesture you in with a smile and ‘Please, join us.’ That invitation felt magical because it was earned through authentic engagement, not forced through aggressive networking tactics.

Small Talk Isn’t Small: The New Zealand Lesson

In my early networking attempts, I tried to skip straight to “professional” conversation. Big mistake. In New Zealand’s cultural context, I learned that small talk isn’t just polite filler—it’s the foundation that everything else is built on.

Those conversations about weekend plans, the weather, or local events aren’t wasted time. They’re trust-building exercises. They signal that you’re approachable, that you see the other person as a whole human being, not just a potential career contact.

But here’s what took me longer to realise: you can absolutely talk about being new to the country, your cultural observations, or your experiences adapting to New Zealand work culture. These aren’t networking weaknesses—they’re conversation nuggets that make you memorable and relatable.

And for someone who has little interest and knowledge in sports, culture was my next best topic!

The Cultural Calibration: Finding Your Authentic Networking Style

The breakthrough came when I stopped trying to network “like a New Zealander” and started networking like myself but with cultural awareness. I developed what I now call “cultural calibration”: adapting your approach without abandoning your authentic self.

This meant:

Observing first: Understanding the local networking rhythm before jumping in
Practicing at low-stakes events: Testing my approach at casual gatherings before important professional events
Embracing my story: Using my migrant experience as conversation starters rather than hiding it
Building genuine curiosity: Focusing on learning about others rather than impressing them

The Relationship-First Reality Check

Here’s what all those LinkedIn networking “hacks” miss: networking is fundamentally about relationships, not transactions. You can’t skip to the transactional end and expect results (unless you’re truly a one-of-a-kind people have been waiting for all their lives).

And if you haven’t already realised it, networking is most effective when it begins long before a job is needed, not at the point of desperation!

Different cultures have different relationship-building timelines. Some business cultures move quickly from introduction to collaboration. Others require longer relationship investment before professional opportunities emerge. As international professionals, we need to read these cultural cues while building authentic connections.

Your Cross-Cultural Networking Toolkit

The key to networking success across cultures lies in strategic preparation, authentic engagement, and thoughtful follow-through. Here’s my three-phase approach for attending in-person networking events:

Before the Event: Research attendees and prepare cultural talking points that make you memorable for the right reasons.

During the Event: Balance observation with action—arrive early, set realistic goals (2-3 meaningful conversations), and remember that genuine curiosity translates across all cultures.

After the Event: Follow up within 48 hours with personalised messages that reference specific conversation points.

Small Talk That Actually Works

Remember, small talk is the foundation of trust-building in most cultures. Safe conversation starters include weather, local events, hobbies, and your positive observations about adapting to the local culture. Your international background isn’t something to hide—people are genuinely curious about your journey and cultural insights.

Avoid heavy topics like politics, religion, or salary details. Instead, focus on sharing interesting (not overwhelming) details about your professional path or cultural discoveries.

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From Outsider to Insider: The Long Game

Networking isn’t a one-event solution—it’s a long-term relationship-building strategy that varies dramatically across cultures and connections. While some cultures favor quick professional connections, others require extended relationship investment before any career conversations begin. Similarly, some professional relationships spark immediately over shared goals or complementary expertise, while others develop slowly as you establish credibility and trust in your new environment. What matters isn’t the timeline—it’s the authenticity of the connection.

Here’s the human reality of the networking long game: you’re building relationships with real people, not LinkedIn profiles or AI-generated personas. Real people get overwhelmed, miss messages, and sometimes life simply gets in the way of timely responses. When your thoughtful follow-up goes unanswered, don’t spiral into rejection stories. Practice assuming positive intent—they’re likely just juggling their own challenges. There are countless other meaningful connections waiting to be made, so channel your energy toward those rather than overanalysing radio silence.

The professionals who thrive in cross-cultural networking aren’t the most outgoing or the most culturally assimilated. They’re the ones who show up consistently, contribute their unique perspectives authentically, and understand that networking is about building community, not collecting contacts.

Your cultural background isn’t something to overcome, it’s your networking superpower. In a world craving authentic connections, the professional who bridges cultures while staying true to themselves doesn’t just network successfully—they become the connection others seek out.

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Let’s Put These Strategies into Action

You don’t need to get lost in translation to build a powerful professional network. The most successful international professionals I know aren’t cultural chameleons—they’re authentic bridges who help others understand different perspectives while building genuine relationships.

Your networking journey isn’t about becoming someone else. It’s about learning to present your authentic self with cultural intelligence and strategic intention. The accent, the different perspective, the unique career path—these aren’t obstacles to overcome. They’re advantages that make you memorable in all the right ways.

The key is developing the confidence to show up as yourself while respecting the cultural context you’re operating in.

Ready to master authentic networking that accelerates your career without compromising who you are?

As a career coach who’s navigated this journey myself—from awkward PhD introductions to building meaningful professional networks across cultures—I understand the unique challenges international professionals face. My coaching combines cultural intelligence with practical networking strategies that honor your authentic self while achieving your career goals.

I’ve helped professionals from over 20 countries develop networking confidence that opens doors and creates opportunities. Whether you’re struggling with cultural adaptation, battling networking anxiety, or simply want to build more strategic professional relationships, I provide personalised strategies that work for your unique background and goals.

Learn more about me and book a free no-obligation 20-min call to find out how career coaching can help you.

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Embracing the Journey of an International Professional

2 August 20253 August 2025adminLeave a comment

🌍 Here’s my story of how I became an international professional.

My life motto: Carpe Diem

“Carpe diem. Seize the day. Make your lives extraordinary.”

The quote comes from the film Dead Poets Society, spoken by the character John Keating (played by the late Robin Williams), a teacher inspiring his students to pursue their passion and do something great. I watched the film when I was just 12 years old, ready to enter high school, and in those years of schooling and later on at university. I found myself drawn to exploration, self-discovery, and defying expectations. That spirit remains a driving force in my life and career today.

It represents more than just motivation. Carpe Diem speaks to my desire to be bold and use my talents, to be brave and make a difference, and to believe that whatever I do serves a greater purpose beyond my own needs.

My identity: A Chinese Singaporean

I was born and raised in Singapore, a multicultural city-state and former British colony, where English is the main language of education and public life. In multicultural Singapore, Chinese, Malay, Indian, Eurasian and other ethnic communities live side-by-side, and so I was part of a social fabric of cultural and linguistic diversity from an early age,

As a Chinese Singaporean, I grew up speaking English at home, school, and with friends, while also learning Chinese and Mandarin as a second language under Singapore’s bilingual policy. Our official mother tongue was assigned based on ethnicity and was a second language by default. Singapore’s bilingual policy has evolved over the years with a current focus on reviving interest and proficiency in our ethnic languages. However, among my generation, we were impressed upon the social and economic importance of mastering English, a gateway to the Western world and prosperity.

The particular ideology, policy and pragmatism of my upbringing have no doubt contributed to my strong grounding in both Western and Asian cultures. This has enabled me to navigate global spaces with confidence and cross-cultural fluency. My language and cultural identity shapes how I see the world and informs my work as an international professional and career coach committed to cross-cultural understanding. I understand what it’s like to look ‘Asian,’ sound ‘Western,’ and yet not fully belong in either category.

What does it mean to be international?

My sense of being ‘international’ began during a university course on the history of the English language. I was introduced to World Englishes and the debate on who ‘owns’ English. I was struck by how much judgment people receive based on their accent, race, or skin colour, even in multicultural contexts, and the sharp division and discrimination between native and non-native English speakers.

In all my youthful defiance, I told myself: No country or accent shall determine how I use English. I shall be an international speaker of English!

This deep desire to challenge the barriers and divisions imposed by so-called pure, prestigious or better versions of English later shaped my Master of TESOL and PhD study. The debate on who owns English was re-ignited through my essay on Re-imagining the Non-Native Speaker. In my PhD research on international learners, one of my research agenda items was to dispel the deficit framing of non-native English speakers.

In corporate settings, I realised how many brilliant professionals around the world feel undermined not by lack of skill, but by cultural codes, accent bias, and the hidden hierarchies of language.

A 2013 British Council report states that English “now belongs to the world and increasingly to non-native speakers – who today far outnumber native speakers.” Indeed, the English language continues to evolve and it continues to serve as a global lingua franca, and yet old habits die hard. Our accent (and skin colour) continue to draw judgment from native and non-native English speakers alike. Just read the news about the racist backlash against Air New Zealand’s new CEO Nikhil Ravishankar.

It feels like contemporary notions of ‘inclusivity’ that celebrate and embrace differences are individual beliefs at best, and very slippery and airy concepts at worst. And I wonder if ‘international’ is a similar contemporary notion – Is it something that is celebrated and embraced? Or will it reveal its true colours when it is put to the test? And how much is one person’s experience of being international positively or negatively affected by the languages they speak, the accent of their spoken English, their passport, and the shade of their skin they were born with?

How to thrive as an international professional

The complex realities of being international are discomforting, but I’m not here to dwell in the discomfort. Instead, I aim to raise awareness and spark conversation through writing. I’ve previously written about my experiences and tensions in looking, feeling and being different:

✍️ Living and thriving with labels: A journey towards cultural intelligence

✈️ The Diasporic Resident

🧭 How NOT to be a Migrant

The moral of my stories? Carpe diem. Seize the day. Make your lives extraordinary.

I hope discomfort gives your data. They can show us what still needs dismantling—and where we have power to influence change. So perhaps it’s time to stop scrolling or eye rolling and start thinking, feeling and doing things differently.

My coaching approach: Supporting international careers

As a career coach for international professionals, I’m here to help you, however you define yourself as ‘international’, to do these things:

🔍 Discover Your Strengths
Clarify who you are and how you want to contribute to the world.

❤️ Act With Purpose
Move beyond random applications and focus on how you add value.

🎯 Build Career Confidence
Master tools and strategies to manage manage your career on your own terms—for life!

An invitation to international professionals

If you’re navigating a career change, adapting to a new cultural environment, or exploring your identity as an international professional, this space is for you.

🌍 Learn more about my career journey here.

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Character Strengths in your Career Development

30 June 202519 July 2025adminLeave a comment

Understanding who you are at your core can transform your career journey.

“Who am I?” It’s a question that sounds simple but can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re standing at the crossroads of your career. As a career coach, I’ve seen countless students and graduates get caught up in the external pressures of choosing the “right” degree or the highest-paying job, while neglecting the most important question: Who are you, and how do you want to contribute to the world?

This is where character strengths come in—and they might just be the missing piece in your career development puzzle.

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What Are Character Strengths?

Character strengths are the positive traits of your personality that influence how you think, feel, and behave. Picture this: when you’re browsing the latest books at the library or showing genuine interest during networking conversations, you’re seeing your strength of Curiosity in action.

The research on character strengths began in the early 2000s during the rise of positive psychology. Led by Christopher Peterson and Martin Seligman (known as the father of Positive Psychology), this groundbreaking work resulted in the landmark textbook Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and Classification and the VIA Survey which measures 24 character strengths.

These 24 strengths fall under six universal virtue categories that transcend cultures and nations:

Wisdom (Creativity, Curiosity, Judgment, Love of Learning, Perspective)
Courage (Bravery, Perseverance, Honesty, Zest)
Humanity (Kindness, Love, Social intelligence)
Justice (Fairness, Leadership, Teamwork)
Temperance (Forgiveness, Humility, Prudence, Self-Regulation)
Transcendence (Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence, Gratitude, Hope, Humor, Spirituality)

Why Understanding Your Strengths Matters for Your Career

Let me share a personal story. When my job was made redundant and I had to consider opportunities outside the industry I’d worked in for five years, I felt like I’d been knocked off a spinning top with no way to get back on. In my search for clarity, I discovered the VIA Survey.

While I wasn’t surprised by my results—I’d done plenty of personality assessments before—something was different this time. The simple but thought-provoking descriptions of each strength gave me a fresh perspective on who I was at my core. It validated thoughts I’d had about alternative career paths and even provided language I could use in cover letters and interviews.

Today, I work as a career consultant, and I can tell you firsthand that understanding and applying your character strengths is transformative for career development.

Here’s why it matters:

Self-awareness is the foundation of career planning. Understanding your career direction, what you want to study, and how you want to develop professionally all starts with knowing yourself. Those are exactly the questions employers have about candidates: Who are you? Why do you want to work here?

It helps you align career decisions with your values. A keen awareness of what makes you YOU helps align your career choices with your personal values and motivations, allowing you to shape a meaningful career narrative.

It provides concrete material for job applications and interviews. Your character strengths give you specific, authentic language to use in cover letters and interview responses.

How to Discover Your Character Strengths

The most direct way to understand your character strengths is through the VIA Survey. What makes this assessment particularly valuable compared to other popular tools like the Gallup CliftonStrengths or MBTI assessment?

The VIA Survey is completely free. Unlike many career assessment tools that require payment upfront, the VIA Survey provides you with a comprehensive ranked list of all 24 character strengths at no cost. This makes it accessible to students and job seekers who might be managing tight budgets.

You get your complete strengths profile. Rather than focusing on just your top strengths (like some assessments do), the VIA Survey ranks all 24 strengths from highest to lowest. This gives you a fuller picture of your character profile and helps you understand not just what you’re strongest in, but also areas where you might want to develop.

It’s rooted in rigorous research. The VIA Survey is based on extensive scientific research in positive psychology, with validation across cultures and populations. The 24 character strengths framework has been tested and refined over two decades.

Extensive free resources available. The VIA Institute website offers a wealth of free resources that both individuals and career practitioners can use, including:

Detailed descriptions of each character strength
Research summaries and articles
Practical exercises for applying your strengths
Resources for educators and coaches
Workplace applications and team activities

The basic survey takes just 10-15 minutes to complete and immediately provides your personalised character strengths profile. If you want deeper insights, you can choose to purchase more detailed reports, but the free version gives you everything you need to get started on your strength-based career journey.

In my coaching practice, I also recommend reflection exercises that help you understand your values, skills, and working style. The key is to approach this as an ongoing process of self-discovery, not a one-time assessment.

Character Strengths for Career Clarity

Knowing your signature strengths can help you clarify your career path and ideas. I recently worked with a student pursuing a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and Criminology. They knew they didn’t want to be a psychologist but weren’t sure what else was possible.

When we reviewed their VIA results, we discovered that Love and Kindness were among their top strengths—qualities that were important to them in all aspects of life, including their future work. This insight sparked a conversation about potential roles in community services and various positions focused on helping people navigate difficult situations, including mental health challenges.

By connecting their natural strengths to career possibilities, this student found direction and purpose they hadn’t realised before with such clarity.

How Strengths Complement Your Technical Skills

Character strengths are also an important complement to your knowledge and skills. Your qualifications give you the knowledge and technical skills in your field. Your character strengths help you apply them effectively in the workplace.

For example, you might understand project management in terms of using spreadsheets, organising meetings, and tracking progress. But it’s your Social Intelligence that helps you communicate effectively with different stakeholders, your Love of Learning that helps you adapt and grow on the job, and your Perseverance that keeps you going when projects get challenging.

What Employers Are Looking For

Different roles and industries will emphasise some strengths over others. Here are some patterns I’ve observed:

Innovation and business development roles value cognitive strengths like Creativity and Curiosity
Customer-facing positions prioritise social strengths like Kindness and Teamwork
Analytical and detail-oriented roles benefit from Perseverance, Prudence, and Self-Regulation

But here’s the important part: your particular top strengths shouldn’t dictate what roles you pursue. You have the capacity for all 24 strengths. A good fit between your signature strengths and your work environment enhances satisfaction and performance, but it’s not the only factor for success. Your knowledge, skills, interests, and the broader job market all play important roles.

This is especially relevant given the World Economic Forum’s Future of Jobs Report prediction that we’ll have multiple careers in our lifetime. With 92 million roles being displaced and 170 million new jobs created this decade due to technological development and economic shifts, understanding and applying your strengths becomes even more crucial for navigating this dynamic and ever-changing job market.

Key Takeaway and Next Steps

As Aristotle said, “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

Your top five signature strengths represent who you are at your core. Applying these strengths more often will not only help you feel better and become more resilient—it will lead you to discover more meaningful and satisfying work.

Ready to Discover Your Strengths?

If you’re curious about your character strengths, here’s how to get started:

1. Take the VIA Survey to get a ranked list of your 24 character strengths.

2. Note your top five strengths which are your signature strengths.

3. Discuss your results with trusted friends. What resonates, what surprises you, and where have you seen each other demonstrate these strengths?

4. Download my character strengths reflection worksheet to support your reflection.

5. Consider professional support. Find a career coach or attend workshops to explore how to apply your strengths in your career journey.

Remember, career development isn’t just about finding any job—it’s about finding work that aligns with who you are and allows you to contribute your unique gifts to the world. Your character strengths are your roadmap to getting there.

About the author

Dr Sherrie Lee is a career coach who specialises in helping tertiary students and international professionals discover and apply their character strengths for meaningful career development. She runs workshops and provides one-on-one coaching to support individuals in their career journeys. Sherrie is a Professional Member of the Career Development Association of New Zealand (CDANZ) and leads the CDANZ Special Interest Group on Character Strengths.

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Nurturing career hope in challenging times

1 November 202410 March 2025adminLeave a comment

“*Rose blooming against the odds”, photograph by Sherrie Lee*

It is tough out there for job seekers.

Headlines shout bad news almost daily: “Young people struggle to find work” and “Unemployment rate soars”. It’s no wonder our minds get into a tailspin and our anxiety levels rise.

I experienced it during my job search following job redundancy, and I sense it now among graduating students, as well as their parents who have started posting on LinkedIn about their young people in need of a lucky job break.

As a career consultant, and a former international student graduate who struggled to find work in New Zealand, I share how you can become “career-hopeful” in very trying times.

First, it’s worth noting that bad news stays in our minds longer than good news. It also takes 3-5 positive events or interactions to counter a negative one. It’s not about denying the facts of the job market or the state of the economy, but it’s about focusing on things we can control and engaging in activities that help us improve our mood, practice skills or learn new ones, and ultimately provide hope that we can look forward to our future.

The STAR mnemonic is often used as an interview technique for demonstrating your competencies: Situation, Task, Action, Result: Describe the Situation and explain the Task with details about the Action you took, concluding with the Result of your action. We also use the STAR approach to develop our CV and cover letter. Because STAR is used to help articulate your abilities and values, it can also be used to help create positive events and interactions in your job search journey.

S for Situation and Success. Instead of describing a situation, you are creating one. Think about another S word – success. What is one thing you would like to be successful at? One common challenge for jobseekers is networking. Even for an extrovert like me, and particularly in a time when there are few relevant jobs to apply for, the last thing I wanted to do was to dress up, go someplace, and meet people in the hope of finding work. Yet, research tells us time and time again that our networks are an important factor in finding work opportunities and potential intel. The act of networking also provides an opportunity for us to let others know about who we are and contribute something valuable to a conversation. If you’re not naturally sociable or are feeling sceptical about networking, perhaps set yourself a challenge – attend one networking event with the goal of meeting and talking to at least two new people. If you make it to the networking event and chat with a few people, congrats! You’ve overcome fear or inertia and have learned to make new connections.

Find opportunities to take control of the situation and set yourself some achievable goals – the feeling of success should not be underestimated. For me, networking was a dopamine boost for my job search journey. It helped me get out of comfy clothes and remind myself that I was – and still am – a professional with something valuable to share and a curiosity to learn.

T for Task and Test. Set yourself some tasks to do towards a specific purpose. And here’s another T word to consider – test. Use these tasks to test your ideas and thinking and help you make decisions. For example, you might be thinking of switching industries or getting a new qualification. Talk to people in the industry or those who have made the switch or talk to the course provider about the entry requirements and career prospects. Make time to explore a question you have, a ‘what if’ scenario, and seek out others to help you find answers. Setting up smaller tasks and testing things helps to break down major decision-making into doable steps.

I often set up informational interviews with people when I want to find out more about moving to a different field or area of work. For example, I connected with people working in the training and coaching industry when I was considering becoming a career coach. These were a mix of coffee chats and short video calls that helped me understand what people did, and what they enjoyed about it, testing my own career ideas.

A for Action and Active. What actions could you take to engage in sharing or improving your skills and knowledge? You could volunteer your time and services in the local community or learn something new through a free online course on platforms like Coursera. Or give yourself permission to take a break from job searching and pick up a new hobby. Making a conscious decision to do something else that is meaningful will help you be refreshed and encouraged in your job search journey.

I enrolled in a micro-credential course in disruptive technologies which entailed weekly online guest lectures and working on assignments. This not only helped me gain new knowledge about an area I was interested in, but the structure also provided me with a routine and something to look forward to apart from just job hunting.

R for Result and Resilience. The result of all the above is Resilience. Identifying what you would like to be successful at, setting yourself doable tasks, testing ideas, and staying actively engaged in endeavours other than job hunting, will all help to improve your career resilience. We can’t deny the bumps we are experiencing, but we can learn to face up to them bravely and confidently.

It wasn’t always easy for me to wake up each day to bad news streaming on social media about not finding jobs. However, I found that by focusing my energy on things I could do, people I wanted to meet, and things I wanted to learn, I was in a much better frame of mind to look for work that resonated with my aspirations and values.

I hope the STAR approach provides a way for you to find career hope just as it has done for me.

This article was written for the Careers Newsletter produced by the Careers and Employment Team at Te Herenga Waka — Victoria University of Wellington

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