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Not a Side Hustle: Rebuilding Work, Identity, and Home After a Big Move

In this podcast episode, I chat with a fellow Singaporean, Adlena Wong, whom I got to know on LinkedIn, proving that LinkedIn does work in connecting people with shared interests. It wasn’t just because Adlena was a fellow Singaporean that got me curious, but it was her candid reflections on LinkedIn that either resonated with my experiences or provided a counterpoint to what I experienced. Plus her food business and signature bak chor mee (minced meat noodles) meal prep kit certainly appealed to the Singaporean craving for heritage comfort food.

An important theme that came up in our conversation was “side hustle”, a term people use to describe a business or project you run in your spare time, but often seen as less important than your main job. For Adlena, her food entrepreneurship journey was not just a side hustle and mattered in ways that regular employment did not offer.

It made me reflect on my foray into podcasting, a side hustle of sorts, but certainly an important aspect of my personal development and desire to connect more deeply with the topics and themes I’ve been writing about for years – crossing borders, feeling different, and discovering how being and belonging is an ongoing dance.

I’ve written about the portfolio career as something that happened to me over time, and how reflection helped me understand its deeper implications. Sometimes talking about our career as a portfolio of experiences and skills can liberate us from the shaky career ladder of progression and paychecks. I’m not suggesting that the moment we fail the career-ladder stress test, we simply become a portfolio of whatever has happened to date. I am suggesting that we use a different lens to appreciate how our skills, talents and experiences have shaped us and led us up and down and across the career game board. And even more than that, explore different ways to think and talk about our careers.

If you’re someone who has crossed borders and cultures, what does your portfolio look like?

Or to use a food metaphor, what do your main course, side dishes, desserts and specials look like?

Watch or Listen to the Episode

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/eAjLLa3Lw-4

Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4t4hQVdUVejoGMtk6TI66X?si=YcPehUm5RoW1odIp6XC7eg 

Meet the Guest: From Communications Career to Food Entrepreneur

Adlena Wong is the founder of Super Shiok Eats, a Singaporean food business in Auckland, New Zealand, and a part-time internal communications lead at a public sector organisation there. She moved from Singapore to New Zealand roughly eight years ago, arriving just before the COVID-19 pandemic, and is a communications professional and mother of two daughters.

Why “Side Hustle” Undersells the Work of Building Something New

A “side hustle” undersells committed work because the label measures effort by job title and hours, not by the intensity of care behind it. Adlena makes this case for Super Shiok Eats: the business grew out of necessity rather than a formal career plan, but the effort, energy, and dedication she pours into it disqualifies it from being casual.

Someone can be a casual worker in title terms while still bringing full dedication — and that level of commitment, not the formality of the role, is what actually defines “real” work.

For Adlena, her day job as an internal comms lead is what pays the bills. Super Shiok Eats, on the other hand, is where she sees no ceiling on what’s possible — a distinction worth naming for anyone weighing a “day job” against a passion project they’re reluctant to call minor.

How to Turn a Difficult Season Into a New Direction

Turning a difficult season into a new direction often starts with using enforced disruption to finally test an idea you’d already been holding onto. Adlena had completed her food safety certification about a year after arriving in New Zealand — a long-held ambition to eventually start a food business — and when COVID-19 lockdown hit, she needed a personal outlet beyond childcare and supporting her husband’s work-from-home routine, so she began cooking and selling food beyond her immediate family and friends.

What started as something that felt “silly” to launch mid-pandemic turned out to be well-timed: with international travel closed off, homesick members of the diaspora in New Zealand became customers, telling Adlena that her food — including her bak chor mee (minced meat noodles) — helped them feel less homesick and reconnected them to specific memories of home. It’s a reminder that constrained, disruptive periods can sometimes create the exact conditions — time, need, and a captive community — that a new direction requires.

What Your First Jobs Abroad Might Actually Look Like

Your first jobs abroad might look nothing like your prior career, and that’s normal. Before returning to communications work, Adlena took on several unrelated roles while settling into her new environment:

  1. Paper delivery run — found through a local Facebook community group; a way to exercise and learn her new neighbourhood while fitting around school drop-off and pick-up.
  2. Teacher aide — grew out of volunteering at her eldest daughter’s school, and gave her insight into how the local schooling system works from the inside.
  3. Daycare helper — a further extension of her hands-on involvement in her children’s early education environment.
  4. Contract communications role — a six-month maternity cover at an insurance company, which led to her current position as an internal communications lead.

The pattern is a useful one for anyone starting over: taking work that’s unrelated to your prior career, but that fits your immediate circumstances, can be a legitimate bridge back to your field rather than a detour from it.

What an Isolating Start Can Teach You About Family Resilience

An isolating start can force a family to rely on itself in ways that build resilience faster than a wider support network would allow. Adlena describes arriving in a new country and going into lockdown shortly after as a “double whammy” — new to the place and then isolated within it — but in hindsight frames it as a positive turning point: two years of relative self-reliance strengthened her family unit in a way she believes would have been harder to achieve back home, where extended family and social obligations would have competed for attention.

Why Workplace Culture Feels So Different After an International Move

Workplace culture feels different after an international move mainly because of pace and trust — two things rarely named outright but felt daily. Asked to pinpoint the biggest difference she’s experienced, Adlena points to pace: having to slow down significantly compared to the fast, efficiency-driven environment she was used to. She frames this as an open question rather than a settled judgement — she isn’t sure whether it’s harder for migrants to slow down, or harder for locals to speed up.

A second lens raised in conversation: the level of interpersonal trust in workplaces and communities, where relationships and an assumption of good faith carry significant weight. Adlena reframes her home country’s more rules-heavy environment not necessarily as low trust, but as a “nanny state” habit of being taken care of — contrasted with a more laissez-faire “she’ll be right” culture in her new country. For anyone navigating culture shock at work, this kind of reframing — treating friction as difference rather than deficiency — can make the adjustment easier to sit with.

How to Hold Onto Your Identity While Building a Life Somewhere New

Holding onto your identity while building a life somewhere new means separating home from life rather than forcing yourself to choose one. Adlena identifies clearly with her country of origin — she holds its passport, speaks with its accent, and runs a business built around its food — while drawing that clear distinction:

Home is always where you’re from. Life is where you are.

She describes this as her version of “work-life balance” applied to geography — home remains thousands of kilometres away, but her present, day-to-day life is firmly in her new country. Family ties, especially with her mother and her husband’s family, still anchor “home” to where she came from. This kind of dual framing — rather than forcing a single answer to “where are you from” or “where is home” — is a useful model for anyone who feels pressure to fully “belong” to only one place.

Why a Career Change Abroad Can Unlock Confidence You Didn’t Have at Home

A career change abroad can unlock confidence because starting where nobody knows your professional reputation removes the pressure to stay on a single, predictable track. Adlena credits exactly this — the relative anonymity of starting over in a new country — with giving her the confidence to pivot away from a traditional, upward-only career path, in contrast to her home country, where she believes she’d most likely still be climbing toward a formal, single-track leadership title.

Despite founding and growing her own business, she has deliberately stayed hands-on with the fundamentals of her craft — writing, research, email campaigns, photography, and event organisation — rather than moving entirely into oversight. She credits this hands-on approach with giving her the practical skills (branding, marketing, communication) that made her business possible. For anyone facing a career change, this suggests that skills built in one context can transfer directly into building something of your own, even in an unrelated industry.

What People Moving Abroad Often Miss Most About Home

What people miss most about home after moving abroad is often small and practical, not grand or cultural. For Adlena, it’s public transport — an efficient, affordable, reliable transit system, contrasted with the cost trade-offs she now weighs in her new country, like choosing between a costlier bus fare and parking — a reminder that everyday conveniences, once taken for granted, are often what’s felt most acutely once they’re gone.

How to Know Which Advice to Trust When You’re Weighing a Move Overseas

The advice worth trusting when weighing a move overseas usually comes from people who made a similar trade-off recently, not from generic reassurance that a move is simply “right” or “wrong.” Adlena leans on the perspective of peers who moved around the same time as her, rather than earlier generations of migrants whose circumstances differ, and the advice she returns to is about trade-offs: things she might not have had at home — such as owning two cars or living in a landed property with a garden — are part of what she’s gained by moving, weighed against what she’s given up.

The One Thing to Remember Before You Move Overseas

No matter what happens, you can always come home. That’s Adlena’s answer when asked what she’d tell her pre-move self — and the same reassurance she hopes to pass on to her own daughters if their life circumstances ever become difficult: home remains a place to return to, regardless of outcome.

Q&A Highlights

Where is home for you? 

“I think it would still be Singapore. I spent most of my life being born and raised there, and family is still there — our parents are all back home. That tie still being there makes it hard to break, just because we are in a different country.”

What’s the one thing you miss about Singapore? 

“Public transport — good, efficient, reliable public transport that doesn’t cost you an arm and a leg and make you question your life decisions, like: Should I pay $10 to take a bus or take the car and pay $7 for my parking?”

If you could tell your pre-move self one thing, what would it be?

“No matter what happens, you can always come home. If it doesn’t work out, if life gets too hard, come home. That’s what home is.”

About Dr Sherrie Lee

Dr Sherrie Lee is a career coach and educator for international professionals, ICF certified in positive psychology coaching. She is a Professional Member of CDANZ, where she hosts the Character Strengths Special Interest Group, and writes and speaks regularly on international careers, character strengths, and cross-cultural belonging.

Learn more at thediasporicacademic.com, book a free 20-minute discovery call, connect on LinkedIn, or subscribe to the monthly newsletter International Career Journey on Substack.

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Portfolio careers are increasingly important in a disruptive labour market.
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The Portfolio Career I Didn’t Know I Was Building

The world feels more uncertain than it was before. Yet I’ve never felt more sure about the kind of career I want. 

That’s not to say I know exactly what role I’ll land in five years or which skills I’ll need to master next. Job titles and roles matter—they help you understand required capabilities and map stepping stones forward. I’ve used this approach many times, and it’s served me well.

But I’m entering a new phase of career thinking. Rather than chase the next job with its narrow definitions and built-in limitations, I want to cultivate my own unique suite of skills and expertise that leads to interesting, challenging opportunities.

Enter the portfolio career.

The Era of Portfolio Careers Has Arrived

We’ve long thought of careers as ladders to climb—promotions, better pay, prestigious titles. That paradigm is all but outdated.

The OECD confirms what many already know: 21st-century career paths have become increasingly fluid. Workers change jobs, employers, and entire careers more frequently than past generations. Average job tenure has declined across OECD countries. U.S. data shows baby boomers held nearly 13 jobs over their working lives, with surveys suggesting half of all workers undergo a complete career change during their lifetime.

“The successful career of the future is not a ladder to climb. It’s a portfolio to curate.” — April Rinne, futurist

Rapid technological change and labour market disruption mean we must adapt continuously, develop new skills, and sometimes change careers entirely. Unlike a job that can be lost, your portfolio career—the collection of skills, experiences, and capabilities you’ve built—is yours forever.

Portfolio careers are especially relevant for international professionals who have crossed borders, rebuilt careers in new countries, learnt whole new cultures, and navigated challenges of visas, identity, and belonging.

This isn’t a trendy concept. It describes what we’ve been doing all along—whether for advancement or survival—even when we didn’t have language to name it.

So how can we better appreciate our own portfolio careers?

Taking inspiration from Agile methodology, I suggest doing a career retrospective: a structured reflection on your journey to date, examining all your roles (paid and unpaid, including volunteering), and discovering themes and threads.

My Career Retrospective: 25 Roles in 25 Years

When I list everything I’ve done from my first gig out of high school to now, I count 25+ roles spanning 25+ years.

My laundry list includes: piano teacher, lifestyle writer, dance company manager, English teacher, conflict management trainer, business communications lecturer, researcher, student association president, business development manager, principal advisor to a deputy secretary, social media manager, board member, worship leader, and university career consultant.

One could call it chaotic. To a recruiter, it might seem like a bewildering collection of disparate roles, leaving them wondering what kind of career chameleon they’re dealing with.

But how about poetic? From a young age, I’ve been driven by curiosity and purpose, following personal interests rather than conventional pathways. Each role represents a desire to pursue passion, help people, or contribute to something bigger than myself.

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The Early Years: Passion vs. Pragmatism

The coolest role I had at university was arts and film reviewer for an e-zine set up by enterprising students starting their web hosting business. The gig didn’t pay, but spending evenings watching theatre, dance productions, and countless films for free was payment enough. Critiquing performances and narratives was the highest form of self-actualisation for an arts student majoring in English.

After graduation, I worked in the dot-com sector as it was about to bubble-burst, moved to arts management, then teaching. I constantly felt tension between passion and pragmatism in my home country of Singapore. My peers were well ahead in their established careers while I worried about my CV, which screamed “job-hopper” from day one.

The Settling Down Phase: Getting “Real”

When I was ready to settle down and start a family, I was determined to hang up my footloose approach and get serious about a “real job.” I interviewed for a conflict management trainer role that felt very much in my element. I was video recorded doing a mock training session which felt natural, thanks to past teaching gigs and high school drama productions.

Then came the chat with the big boss. She was concerned about my CV: “Can you actually stay in this job?” I played my adulting card—all truth, no fluff. She later told me: “If it wasn’t for your video, we wouldn’t have given your CV a second look.”

Life stage and family responsibilities changed everything. I was looking for stability and professional growth, which I found in training and education roles. I spent 10 years sharpening my trainer’s toolkit, honing my teaching craft, delving into pedagogies, and completing my Master of Arts in Teaching. There was great satisfaction doing meaningful work through my skills and talents, yet a restlessness tugged at my sensibilities.

The Big Leap: PhD and Migration

That restlessness led to another life-changing transition. Inspired by theories and research I’d spent long hours writing about for my Master’s, I wanted to go further. I decided I wanted to do a PhD in Education with dreams of becoming an academic. I also wanted my family to experience something new, for my children to enjoy their childhood, and to take this calculated risk before we got too comfortable.

We moved to New Zealand where I started a new role as a PhD candidate and threw myself wholeheartedly into academia and research.

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Making Sense of the Pattern

How could I make sense of all these roles?

Analysing them using Holland Codes (RIASEC personality types) revealed this: I have a Social-Enterprising-Artistic (SEA) profile. Social is clearly dominant, Enterprising a strong secondary, and Artistic significant. Conventional and Investigative are moderate, while Realistic is non-existent.

Whilst people usually take the profile test to explore related jobs, this reverse analysis helped me appreciate something profound: The SEA profile isn’t just about job preferences or job fit. It reveals my desire to combine social, enterprising, and artistic elements in my work. Or put another way: to be someone who influences and develops people, spearheads projects, and offers creative and original insights.

The portfolio I built was invisible to me for years because I measured it against conventional markers of progress and prestige, even whilst trying to explore alternative directions.

Seven Years of Change, Challenge, and Completion

This realisation emerged recently whilst reflecting on my original migration plans and PhD dreams. Serendipitously, it’s been seven years since completing my PhD.

Seven years. That’s how long it took from completing my PhD in Education at the University of Waikato to finding my way back to a university setting, but in a role I never imagined when I submitted my thesis.

Seven years often represents a period of completion, transformation, and cycles. When I walked across that graduation stage, I carried dreams of an academic career: publications, teaching positions, research grants. That was the primary motivator for moving countries and uprooting my family. The academic career seemed like a natural progression from teaching in higher education, and a worthy, family-proud career I would add.

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The pathway I envisioned was clear and conventional. What I got instead was seven years of non-academic roles where I swapped my academic identity for a professional one that felt strange at first but grew in skills, knowledge, and networks over time. It was difficult to admit I’d “failed” to become an academic. I used to joke that I was a “recovering academic” when I first started my professional role.

But looking at those seven years through an emotional lens, I also recall the roller coaster: rejection and reinvention, success and shattered plans. The search for academic jobs felt hopeful but grew hopeless through successive rejections. Then came a career consultant role for new migrants that was supposed to be temporary but led to pragmatic considerations of stable income. A pivot into government work took me further from my academic identity, yet the professional environment was exciting and rewarding. Just when I thought I’d made impressive strides, involuntary redundancy forced me to consider returning to Singapore, questioning whether migration itself had been a mistake.

The roller coaster graph of those seven years ends on a high with my current role as university career consultant. Climbing from rock bottom to this high point was no magic wand, quick career hack, or pure dumb luck. I was forced to consider all options, dig deep, and get uncomfortable with worst-case scenarios. The Social-Enterprising-Artistic aspects of my career personality jostled for attention. I felt drawn to roles that gave me the most energy and hope.

At any point during those seven years, if you’d asked about my career, I would have simply answered with facts, stating the job I had or that I was looking for one.

But here’s what hindsight reveals: I was building a portfolio career all along. I just couldn’t see it because it’s very hard to avoid measuring yourself against conventional markers of progress and prestige, even when you’re consciously trying to explore alternative directions.

When Your PhD Feels Like a Cruel Joke

PhD students often indulge in cruel optimism – the doctoral aspiration for academic life despite depressing realities of limited opportunities and precarious pathways. I was truly an optimist, feeling ultra-motivated to publish, attend conferences, and do everything possible to increase my academic capital and beat the odds.

My PhD research focused on peer brokering practices amongst international learners, specifically how students navigate culturally relevant connections and networks to succeed in unfamiliar academic environments. I understood, intellectually and personally, what it meant to be an outsider trying to find my way. I’d lived it as a Singaporean Chinese in New Zealand: trying to explain who I was culturally and ethnically to a largely disinterested audience, working hard and speaking out to prove naysayers wrong, always seeking connections and networks that understood my work and identity.

Cruel optimism ran its course. Urgent pragmatism loomed large in the rearview mirror.

The cruel part wasn’t just the reality of the academic job market and short-term contracts, but that being migrant, Asian, Chinese, unconventional, and assertive was a mixed bag of traits that didn’t quite fit the people, place, and perspective where I was situated.

With my PhD degree done and dusted, it was a full-time paid job that would keep my migrant dreams alive, not a half-baked notion of someday getting an academic position. Because that’s what migration demands. You can’t afford idealism when you need to prove economic value whilst still establishing your foothold in a new country.

The Invisible Portfolio I Was Actually Building

They say hindsight is 20/20. Commenting on the past seems easy when you know the outcome. But that clarity is only useful if it’s meaningful and teaches lessons for the future.

What do my aha moments tell me about myself, my career, and my future?

Phase 1: Getting a Foot in the Door (The Accidental Job)

When I took the career consultant role working with new migrants, it felt like survival mode. Ditching the academic dream for a job. A foot in the door to the public sector. Something to pay bills whilst figuring out what came next.

What it looked like then: A compromise. Moving away from academia and research. Leaving behind the identity I’d worked so hard to build.

What I can see now: This role built new knowledge structures of the public sector and provided the very foundation of my career practice today. I was developing:

  • Deep empathy through shared experience: I wasn’t just helping migrants; I was one. I understood the disorientation, the pressure to prove yourself, the exhaustion of constant cultural translation.
  • The art of brokering in practice: My research had been about peer brokering. Now I was doing it professionally by connecting people to resources, translating between cultural contexts, helping others navigate unfamiliar systems.
  • Client-centred coaching skills: Every conversation required listening beneath the surface, understanding what people weren’t saying, recognising cultural dimensions of career aspirations.
  • Knowledge of settlement systems: I was learning the landscape of migration support, policy, and barriers—knowledge that grew my systems thinking and analysis skills.

This wasn’t just a job. It was an apprenticeship in policy implementation and cross-cultural career development that no academic position could have provided.

Phase 2: Embracing a New Professional Mindset (Switching Track)

The pathway into government jobs took me even further from what I thought I wanted. Policy. Stakeholder management. Bureaucratic processes. This wasn’t education. This wasn’t research. This was a completely different professional culture.

What it looked like then: I was losing my academic identity. Becoming someone else. Forced in a different direction.

What I can see now: I was gaining dual citizenship in academic and professional cultures—an attribute I didn’t think much of before but has provided unique credibility to different audiences. I developed:

  • Policy thinking: Understanding how systems work, how decisions get made, how to navigate institutional structures
  • Stakeholder management across differences: Working with diverse groups, building consensus, translating between organisational languages
  • Public sector networks: Connections across government agencies, exposure to how settlement and education policy machinery actually operates
  • Institutional navigation skills: The patience to work within complex systems, the strategic thinking to influence them

I was learning my identity didn’t have to be either/or. I could hold both academic researcher and government professional. I could maintain my “north star” of international education whilst being pragmatic about where I worked. In fact, that north star helped me land a job at Education New Zealand as business development manager.

However, holding two identities also taught me that working in government was less about asserting personal authoritative expertise and more about implementing policies of the government of the day, regardless of opinion or perspective.

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Phase 3: Contributing to Causes and Networks (Keeping My Passion Alive)

Throughout my government years, I never stopped watching for opportunities related to my research interests: international students, migration, cross-cultural engagement, supporting ethnic communities. 

I initiated Lunar New Year celebrations at my workplace. I was an active member of the Pan-Asian Public Sector Network. I applied successfully to be a board member of English Language Partners (New Zealand’s largest provider of English language training to migrants and former refugees). I maintained connections with academic friends and professional associations, and wrote about my passion topics on my blog.

What it looked like then: Scattered focus. Trying to be someone I couldn’t really be anymore. Not knowing where passion projects were leading—maybe a dead end.

What I can see now: This was planned happenstance in action, the career theory by John Krumboltz about creating and transforming unplanned events into opportunities. I was engaging in:

  • Strategic networking: Building bridges between sectors, creating weak ties that Mark Granovetter’s research showed would be more valuable than strong ties
  • Domain expertise maintenance: Supporting and advocating for cross-cultural engagement and inclusion even whilst working in completely different areas, ensuring I could speak both languages when opportunities arose
  • Persistence without rigidity: Having direction without being so attached to specific outcomes that I missed other possibilities

I also wonder if keeping passion alive with these extracurricular activities was the extra fuel that kept me motivated in my day job, especially when work demands zapped all optimistic energy from my tank.

Career transitions aren’t just about skills and opportunities. They’re about identity, belonging, and the courage to rebuild yourself when your plans fall apart.

Phase 4: Losing My Job and Feeling Like a Loser (Hitting Rock Bottom)

When the notice of redundancy came, I felt I was free-falling. No government job. Few alternatives. A good track record and previous connections seemed to count for little when everyone else had those things too.

It felt like reliving the cruel optimism of pursuing a PhD but worse. I had overcome, I had succeeded, and now I’d fallen off what looked like the highest rung, with no substitute in sight. Was someone punishing me for thinking I could make it this far?

Urgent pragmatism reared its fat, ugly head. Should I stay or should I go? Should I return to Singapore? Had my PhD and all these years establishing my New Zealand career been for nothing?

What it looked like then: Failure. Career stagnation. The end of my New Zealand story.

What I can see now: This forced pause helped me pull together my portfolio career elements. Now both content and process are key components of my training and coaching practice. I gained:

  • Clarity about values: When considering leaving a country, you discover what actually matters. I had to articulate why I wanted to stay, what New Zealand meant to me, what kind of work would be meaningful.
  • Resilience through radical uncertainty: I learnt to sit with not knowing. To hold multiple possibilities without immediately needing resolution. To be reminded that man proposes, but God disposes, and that God ultimately directs my steps and determines my outcomes.
  • Introspection as a practice: The ability to examine my assumptions, challenge my own narratives, and ask hard questions became a skill I could offer others.
  • Normalising ‘return’ without shame: Many international professionals face this crossroads. I learnt that considering all options, including returning home, isn’t failure. Despite the social stigma of a failed migration story (common in many Asian cultures), I consider it a blessing to be able to have the option of returning home when others may not have such a choice. It’s a choice worthy of consideration that holds potential benefit.

This period taught me something important about career transition: 

It’s not just about transferrable skills and opportunities. It’s about identity, belonging, and the courage to rebuild when plans fall apart.

During this time, I took steps to explore what I’d been interested in for ages, what was part and parcel of an academic’s job, what I’d done professionally as corporate trainer and lecturer, and engaged in when mentoring junior staff and organising onboarding programmes: training and coaching.

I started looking into professional development programmes, getting credentialled for past experience and skills, volunteering my training and coaching services to not-for-profits. The more I did it, the more alive I felt. I was once again in my element!

Attaining professional membership with the Career Development Association of New Zealand was a milestone of gigantic proportions. It validated this: that my PhD in Education and previous teaching, coaching, and career development experience had not been in vain. In fact, all of it was highly valuable for the work of a careers practitioner.

Phase 5: University Career Consultant (Full Circle Integration)

After more than 20 job applications and rejections, whilst exploring and experimenting with training and coaching, a job ad caught my attention: Career Consultant, Victoria University of Wellington. This was a role I’d been practising for months, work I’d done before, in an environment I was highly attracted to. I interviewed successfully for the role, and when I started, it felt absolutely right from day one.

It wasn’t the academic role I’d once clamoured for, but I was working in an educational and intellectual environment promoting student success and supporting equity groups like international and refugee-background students. Not only was I doing meaningful work with direct impact, I genuinely felt welcomed, included, and valued for my knowledge and contributions. Turns out my PhD and all those publications and conferences had built a reputation I didn’t know existed!

What it looked like then: Finally arriving. Coming home.

What I can see now: This role was only possible because of everything that came before. I didn’t return to the university. I arrived as someone completely different.

I brought:

  • Lived experience of migration that allows me to truly understand international students
  • Government systems knowledge that helps me navigate institutional contexts
  • Cross-cultural coaching expertise developed through working in multicultural Singapore and with new migrants in New Zealand
  • Research credentials that give me credibility in an academic environment
  • Brokering skills I can now teach explicitly, drawing on both my PhD research and professional practice

The portfolio I built wasn’t the one I planned. It was more meaningful, more multifaceted, and more transferable than I could have imagined.

Hindsight is 20/20, but only if you’re willing to look back and name what you’ve built. Only if you’re willing to let go of the portfolio you planned and embrace the one you actually have.

The Portfolio Career You Have Is Often Not the One You Planned

When I look back at those seven years between PhD and university career consultant, I don’t see wasted time anymore. I see a portfolio that emerged through lived experience, adaptive responses, and willingness to learn from unexpected places.

The portfolio I built was invisible to me for years because I only saw what was important for my current job and immediate future. I thought success meant getting the job you trained for, getting promoted, getting more money.

But the career retrospective helped me see that where I am today isn’t just a result of accumulated skills, knowledge, and experience. My career personality profile of Social-Enterprising-Artistic was seeded during university, evolved over different life stages, and very much fuelled the career choices and life decisions I’ve made.

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Here’s the paradox I’ve come to understand: even as I consciously tried to chart a different course, I found myself unconsciously measuring progress against traditional markers like job titles, seniority levels, institutional prestige. It’s incredibly difficult to fully let go of these ingrained metrics, even when intellectually you know they don’t capture the full picture of career growth. The tension between exploring new directions and seeking validation through conventional markers was constant. Only in retrospect can I see that the real progress was happening in the very moments I thought I was “falling behind.”

Hindsight is 20/20, but only if you’re willing to look back and name what you’ve built. Only if you’re willing to let go of the portfolio you planned and embrace the one you actually have.

An Invitation to Be Intentional

What hidden portfolio have you been building?

Look back at your career path, especially the parts that felt like failures or detours.

  • What were you actually learning?
  • What skills were you developing that you’ve never named?
  • What connections were you making that seemed peripheral but turned out essential?

The career you have is often different from the one you planned. But different doesn’t mean lesser. It may be richer than you thought, more resilient than you realise, and truly unique and yours to own.


Dr Sherrie Lee is a career coach for cross-cultural and mid-career transitions. She helps international professionals build networks and thrive in new work cultures. Her lived experience as a migrant, research on knowledge brokering, and active professional networks give her a unique perspective on staying resilient and future-ready amid career uncertainty and disruption. Connect with her at thediasporicacademic.com

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